tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5432725100728639437.post9088906512847189126..comments2023-11-05T06:15:47.211-05:00Comments on The Journey: This Is the Reason WhyJennyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16334119521877840064noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5432725100728639437.post-83120896166082355392010-03-01T16:23:24.282-05:002010-03-01T16:23:24.282-05:00Good post, Jenny! Thanks for speaking up about thi...Good post, Jenny! Thanks for speaking up about this so openly. Members of my family adhere to Pearl and the like, so this hits (no pun intended ;P) close to home. <br /><br />My personal realization that spanking was hardly anything I could imagine Jesus doing to a child is when I started thinking of it in terms of "strike" rather than the socially acceptable "spank". Would I treat my spouse that way? Of course not. Would I apply similar force to a child's face/chest? It likely wouldn't leave a mark...but it is incredibly demeaning and disrespectful to the precious soul that lives inside the body. It's a no-go in my home.Ashhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09489641270727866028noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5432725100728639437.post-71402975803715263482010-02-18T20:18:59.106-05:002010-02-18T20:18:59.106-05:00Perhaps, but I'm terrible at being concise. ;...Perhaps, but I'm terrible at being concise. ;) No, really, these quotes barely scratch the surface of their methods and beliefs. And because I was writing this to inform people of the specific kinds of things they talk about, I selected each quote purposely. I'm sure there are plenty of other posts out there about the Pearls that are much shorter if you'd prefer those.Jennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16334119521877840064noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5432725100728639437.post-80025176015192702862010-02-18T19:48:12.642-05:002010-02-18T19:48:12.642-05:00You're right, there would have been no reason ...You're right, there would have been no reason to link to their site. You pasted over 11 quotes from it. Their methods are obviously terrible. Couldn't you have made your point a little more concisely?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5432725100728639437.post-59174015475226467332010-02-17T17:21:41.169-05:002010-02-17T17:21:41.169-05:00Five years ago when Jason and I were first married...Five years ago when Jason and I were first married we knew a children's pastor who used this approach on their kids. I never when what is was called (and people thought I was exaggerating). I remember the mom telling me how they "trained" their kids. It sounded stricter than we are on our dogs : ). <br /><br />I am with James in the sense that I don't know how we will discipline Henry. I am not a fan a spanking but I think that at certain times and with certain children it might be the best option (if handled correctly). For me, more than anything else, it is important that you are connected and talk to your kids. I think knowing your child is key to discipline. <br /><br />Thanks for the interesting post.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04401150221966987230noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5432725100728639437.post-63048635684189312922010-02-16T16:11:08.854-05:002010-02-16T16:11:08.854-05:00Good article. Stands on it's convictions while...Good article. Stands on it's convictions while removing the gap between "spankers" and "non-spankers". Good share.James Lawshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14179917809043925756noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5432725100728639437.post-83746183417432266392010-02-16T15:40:30.651-05:002010-02-16T15:40:30.651-05:00Obviously this has all been on my mind a lot latel...Obviously this has all been on my mind a lot lately; I keep coming across comments, blogs, websites and news stories about this stuff, and I just can't keep my mouth shut. ;) <br /><br />In my thinking about it all, I've come to the place where I agree that the real issue is not spanking in itself. Attached parenting and true discipline can happen in the presence or absence of spanking (and detached parenting and ineffective discipline can also happen in the presence or absence of spanking). I definitely encourage parents to have attached relationships with their kids, to know them well, and to prayerfully seek God's guidance and his heart in raising their children.<br /><br />I really appreciated this article, and I think the author says it better than I am right now. There's more I'd like to say, but I'm having trouble concentrating, lol. <br /><br />http://goybparenting.com/?p=52Jennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16334119521877840064noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5432725100728639437.post-73599991264779816142010-02-16T15:12:09.634-05:002010-02-16T15:12:09.634-05:00I understand your position and I certainly agree w...I understand your position and I certainly agree with you living out your convictions. The issue is very simple in my estimation, if someone beats (not spanks) their child, they are not fit to be parents. These parents (if you can use that title) have temper and control issues and shouldn't have children but counselors. Spanking isn't really the issue, detached parenting and psychopathic tendencies are.<br /><br />I can't say definitively whether I will spank or not. It will completely depend on my child and their uniqueness. I appreciate your content because it gives me many options. If they fit my child, great! If they don't, that's fine too. If I do choose to spank though, please don't lump me into the same category as these lunatics. ;)James Lawshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14179917809043925756noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5432725100728639437.post-45214196919612202172010-02-16T13:19:56.732-05:002010-02-16T13:19:56.732-05:00I just wanted to add that I realize that this stuf...I just wanted to add that I realize that this stuff is not what most people mean when they talk about spanking (although there are plenty of people who follow the Pearls and the like). But when I hear people say "never spank in anger" or that it's commanded in the Bible (and I've heard both these things many, many times), I can't help thinking of stuff like this because that's what these people are saying too. I think it can escalate into a scary, extreme thing way too easily and I'd prefer to stay far away from it (especially considering some of my personal experiences, which is a post for another day). Other people may not feel the need to stay so far from it, but I definitely do.Jennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16334119521877840064noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5432725100728639437.post-64857543929638018472010-02-16T11:06:55.365-05:002010-02-16T11:06:55.365-05:00Sadly, these people are pretty popular among Chris...Sadly, these people are pretty popular among Christian homeschoolers. I only first heard about them a few years ago. I wish I hadn't. :( There are other ministries that say similar things. It really bothers me, obviously.Jennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16334119521877840064noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5432725100728639437.post-86361402812216104082010-02-16T11:01:29.519-05:002010-02-16T11:01:29.519-05:00Where do you find these people. I, in all honesty,...Where do you find these people. I, in all honesty, am not opposed to spanking. My parents spanked me plenty growing up. That's not to say that spanking is the right way or the only way. That's not even to say that any two children can be treated exactly the same way. Children are individuals.<br /><br />With all that being said, these people are quacks at best and animals at worst. I lean heavily on the latter. I haven't seen the website but based on the reading you shared I can already picture the type of people that own it. Regrettable.James Lawshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14179917809043925756noreply@blogger.com